An Open Letter to People Fearing judgement
- Glenn Riley
- Jul 22, 2021
- 3 min read
Updated: Aug 4, 2021
Fear is something that affects many people in many different ways. While some may fear snakes, spiders or a dark room. Others may secretly fear the opinions of other people. I have always had a fear of “what other people think about me”. It led to me being self conscious and it also led to a fear of making decisions. Over the years I have learned how to overcome this fear and I am more confident because of it. This blog is meant to help others understand their fears and overcome them.
People fear the opinions of others.
The fear of what other people think is called social anxiety. Social anxiety has often left people afraid to express their opinions during group discussions and cause others to fall silent in social situations. When most people fear what others think, they assume the worst, that others will make fun of and judge them. However, are all these assumptions true? Is this the kind of opinion that you want to be represented by?
From here we will be examining what is social anxiety and how to overcome it. From here we will be looking at what is social anxiety and what is socially unacceptable behavior. Social anxiety is a problem many have in everyday life and yet it is also quite interesting from an educational point of view. It has been shown that people with social anxiety are not as intelligent as others and they have problems in taking initiative which causes them to be hesitant and avoid new challenges. For example many shy people or those who have low self-confidence are also prone to social anxiety. The causes of social anxiety may be that a person has an overly critical view of the world or people who fear disapproval and rejection.
Every person fears rejection in some way. Some of them are very small, like if you really like someone, you will probably try to get to know them by going out to social events even if you don't want to. Other people fears are of physical danger or disasters. They fear that if they try too hard it could end badly and/or they could hurt themselves or somebody else. Yet, sometimes these fears are created by people thinking too much about how they are seen or being overly competitive and losing to another person. In other words, people fear losing a competition to another person, but what they have to understand is that in reality, people choose to play this game. They choose to compare themselves with others and that can sometimes lead to feelings of low esteem and insecurity.
The whole world is governed by the concept of what others think, so it's only natural for everyone to have their own opinions. It can be dangerous, but there are things you can do to try and avoid them. Many people are very afraid of how other people think of them. If you want to be happy in life, the first thing you need to do is to learn how to stand up for yourself and be confident. Another technique to overcoming fear and inhibition is to get out of your comfort zone and gain experience. Doing something small that puts you a little bit out of your comfort zone will expand it and your world will feel much bigger.
What does social anxiety feel like? Imagine your favorite hot dog riding on your face! How about your chocolate fudge pie? Now try to hold a conversation with someone, you don't know... Well I say "hmm". You always try, but then your entire life seems to slip by without getting a single word in. Social anxiety is a real thing, and so is the help that many people are out there trying to offer, to help their users overcome it. There are courses on Udemy that provide interesting approaches to building confidence. I know enrolling on a course costs money but is well worth the investment if you have been on the receiving end of social anxiety or if you are just needing a boost of self esteem.
Many people fear social situations because they feel as though they are just going to embarrass themselves. They know they shouldn't and that their fear is normal, but they just don't know how to overcome it. Social anxiety is something that every one can experience at least once in their lives. Just as other mental health issues, social anxiety can be treated, but it's not something that should ever be ignored and you shouldn't necessarily have to live with it. If you want to learn more about the subject of social anxiety and how you can overcome it, visit the People fear website and check out all of their articles. You'll be able to read up on articles on how you can build your confidence and be yourself in any social situation.






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